Excuses, excuses, excuses

Boy meets girl, girl makes boy laugh, boy makes girl swoon...and they end up in bed together. It’s an age old story; not a love story but more of a lust story when two people just melt into each other immediately – and sometimes the rest is history.

But sometimes, the rest isn’t anything, the rest is a series of one-word texts and unanswered voicemails – the magic of the first night is gone. And you’re faced with a litany of excuses about past relationships that have messed with his head and ruined him for other women. He wants time, he wants to be alone and figure himself out for a while. Well ladies, to that I say, “Bull!” 

Timing isn’t ever right, nothing is ever perfect. Our lives are always complicated and messy and just plain busy. But when you find someone, really find someone – the kind of guy who rocks your world, the kind of guy who thinks you’re so fantastically awesome that he just can’t give you up – there won’t be any excuses and he certainly won’t blame the ex and her intense, soul-sucking and dramatic ways for making him into this shell of a man who’s so afraid of commitment that he runs away from anything that might possibly be real.

I’ve said before, men say what they mean and they mean it, and I still believe that. But when you’re supposed to be with someone, the excuses that they previously followed religiously just kind of melt away; the ex-girlfriend and the drama and the fear don’t mean anything because he won’t want to lose you.

Next time you hear excuses from a manfriend or potential manfriend, don’t try and talk him out of it, don’t assume he doesn’t know what he wants, just walk away. Because the man who falls for you, the man who will one day fall for you and love you and be yours completely – he won’t make excuses to avoid being with you. Broad generalising statements that put you in the box with all women and all relationships won’t ever fall from his lips. Want to know why? It’s simple: Love is not convenient; it is complicated and imperfect and wonderful and sloppy and messy – kind of like really incredible sex. It happens at the most inopportune moments. But who cares? Half the fun is the butterflies. The moment when you realise that there are no excuses...no talking yourself out of it...no waiting – just a really great, “wow” moment.

Don’t take offense at the excuses; don’t be upset that he doesn’t want you.

Wait.

Wait for the man who falls for you without ever thinking of a reason not to.

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