Less Talk is More Talk

Do we talk too much? Do we over-share? Do we engage forms of communication more often than we engage in a conversation? Yes. Yes. And Yes.

We live in a world where everyone knows everyone else’s business; where people continuously update the world on their personal and professional achievements, and sometimes, in the case of those people who like attention more than dignity, their failures.

I embrace the social community that we’ve established and I am the kind of woman who constantly updates Twitter, searches for business opportunities on Linkedin, and lives with my Blackberry permanently glued to my left hand – I text with my right. 

You may be thinking to yourself, what’s my point? The point is that our need for immediate gratification, constant communication, and instant updates is beginning to bleed over into our relationships.

Men don’t need to know that you just got a pedicure or that you are now friends with someone you once kinda-sorta-dated in the second grade, and I’ll bet that he doesn’t give a damn that you had a cheeseburger for lunch and that as a result you feel kind of bloated.

Because we live in a world of instant everythingwe should embrace the ancient art of conversing, we should enjoy waiting hours to find out how his day was, we should refrain from answering our phones when out with the girls – in short we should chill out. Seriously.  

As much as I don’t think we should be sharing our every thought with our manfriend/boyfriend/bed buddy, I don’t think you should discourage yourself from sending the occasional sext. If you can manage to shoot him a message about what is to come after work, I can guarantee that if you manage to only send that one reminder message you’ll have one hell of a night.

So ladies, be different, dare to be quiet while the rest of the world is surrounded by ambient noise; make your relationship (or whatever you’re involved in) the place where you talk not for the sake of talking but with the goal of real, actual, face-to-face communication.

If the face-to-face thing doesn’t work, then I’m pretty sure the relationship is doomed anyway. So send a sext, enjoy, and say goodnight.

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