Sex & Dirty Food: The new drug?

By Melissa Ramos aka Sexy Food Therapy

It’s after 9pm and Ben is eating dinner. Looking down he notices his waistline curling over his belt. He feels fat and down because it’s Friday night and suddenly he feels like the whole world has plans except for him. Before loneliness completely knocks him out he flips open his laptop and begins to search profiles looking for company for the evening.

Sex is Ben’s drug.

You may think that you’re exempt from this type of promiscuity, but chances are you’ve submitted to a secret relationship at the office, cheating even though you keep telling yourself, this is the last time or when eating too many cookies because you just can’t stop. Do we participate in these romps of debauchery because it’s more fun to listen to the devil on our shoulder? Are we searching for validation under the sheets or are we simply looking to escape ourselves?

Somehow we manage to use sex and dirty food as our drugs. So how do we overcome the addiction?

Reconnect.

One of the best ways I find to reconnect with myself is through of course...sexy foods.

ANYTHING GOES BEAN SALAD
½ can black or kidney beans
½ head of kale chopped fine
2 medium carrots shredded
1 beet shredded
1 handful mixed nuts toasted
1 handful black rice noodles
4-5 garlic cloves
1 tbsp organic butter
Dressing: of your choice

Sauté garlic in butter for a couple minutes and add beans and stir on medium heat for 5 minutes. Add kale and cook until bright green (about 3 minutes).  Set pan aside. 

In a medium pot, boil water and add small handful of black rice noodles (found at any health food store) and cook for 4-5 minutes. Drain.  Add into pan with kale and beans. Mix thoroughly and spoon into bowl and top with shredded beet, carrots and mixed nuts. Pour dressing and serve.

Serves 2.

Real, whole, sexy foods are one of the best ways to reconnect. It grounds us, is a source of Qi (a.k.a. vital energy) and creates dancing flavours on our tongues which in Chinese Medicine is known as the bud of the heart. Simply put, food ignites us.

Sex as a drug isn’t uncommon, but if we can learn to play with ourselves (meaning our souls rather than just our lower anatomy), we might find that we can temporarily offset our desires for outside attention.  It isn’t bad to crave affection, just so long as it’s not at the expense of others or ourselves.

So let’s face ourselves versus running away and use our visions as vibrators and sexy food as the facilitator to our own self-validation. It is at that point we can orgasm to fulfillment of the types of men and food that we are finally ready for and equally deserving of.